When Did I Start…

Popping out of one’s bubble can be hard when focusing on ourselves is so easy. The more we focus on our needs and revolve everything around ourselves the tougher our bubbles become. Some can even become as tough as titanium (actually searched this up, much stronger than steel😬). When the bubble gets to this state we may feel like everything is okay and that we are functioning smoothly🤦🏾‍♀️. However, in reality, we are delaying God’s plan for us and limiting His ability to work through us.

Song of Solomon 8:8, NKJV

We have a little sister, and she hath no breasts:
what shall we do for our sister in the day when she shall be spoken for?”


I was listening to a sermon at church and this verse surprised me 😲. It not your typical verse that you would hear a preacher reference. I began to recall a post I did on this topic 2 years ago (Pop that bubble). And God began to reveal a couple of things.

Allow me to dive 🏊🏾‍♀️ into this scripture a little bit.
To have “no breasts” is to lack something
To have full breasts is to not lack that which we need.
For women in that time, full breasts were a sign of having the ability to properly nurture a child and give them the necessary nutrients.

In this scripture, the shulamite brothers were worried because their “little sister” with “no breasts” and would not be prepared for her being spoken for (back then it was in regards to finding a suitor). “What will we do” they were troubled because she would not be ready because of her lack of breasts. Likewise, God is worried when we bubble ourselves, trust only ourselves and when the times comes lack preparation for Him to speak through us.

The more consumed we are in ourselves and the more we try to do things ourselves, the smaller our “breasts” become. These small breasts symbolise the lack we have of the necessary things that God wants to instil in us to do what He has planned.

The more selfish we become the more we depend on our own power, our own will and become less dependent on God.

But is it not written: “…Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit,
saith the LORD of hosts.” (Zechariah 4:6, NKJV)

And I will reveal the truth about the dangers of selfish bubbles.
When we are in this state especially as Christians, based on experience, when things fail we are most likely to go to God accusatorily. “Why did you let this happen, Lord?” “why me?” “I feel so far from you” “why have you forsaken me Lord..?” am I hitting the right buttons here 🛎.

In these moments we are so focused on ourselves we forget what God has done and continues to do for us. We disregard the small wins in life and blame God for the loss of our bigger desires. We Forget that this very breath, every day we live is by His grace. He decides that we are worthy to live another day and I don’t know about you but that in itself is enough to never doubt God and to be so thankful. We are like the “little sister “with “no breasts” 👀 🙆🏾‍♀️ yea I know tragic truth 😪

A couple of weeks ago this was me 😱shocker I know. and as I was in prayer
God began to remind me “was it not I who…”, “Was it not I that…”. I came to the realisation that I was so focused on what I must accomplish if I could accomplish it that I completely forgot that I had a capable God.🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️
And all I could say in the end was “when did I start…”
When did I start forgetting what God had already done for me?
When did I start relying on myself?
When did I start forming my bubble?
When did I start not thanking God even for a new day?🥺

And with this, I repented and thanked God for this reminder.😭🙏🏾

On a final note, I would like to say, it’s not about me it’s not even about you, it’s about us giving our lives to Him, fully depending on God and allowing Him FULL access to work in us. And that can only happen when we break the selfish bubble around us and allow God in.

Some of you have nearly unbreakable bubbles, you may be a beginner Christian or have never known God before. But if you feel this way that you need to break out of this bubble and allow God in then I invite you to do this sinners prayer and receive Jesus into your heart. That is the first step to breaking that tough bubble.
Sinner’s prayer 🙏🏾

After this feel free to contact me and I am more than willing to help you through this new Journey of your with Christ.

Stay blessed the most stylish way possible being the you that God made you to be 😊

Love’s Sacrificial MindSet

By Carol Hind 

I am honoured to have been asked to write this guest post. It’s been a long-held desire of mine that God use my writing to speak into the lives of His people, particularly women in the Body of Christ, so when the invitation was given, I immediately asked the Lord what he wanted me to say. Out of the blue, a story came to mind. I’d not read it for a while and hadn’t really considered it to be particularly inspiring, so God’s prompting took me by surprise.

I therefore trust this post will provoke you and speak to you wherever you are at in your relationship with the Lord. I pray it will not just be another post that you read (hopefully enjoy) and then forget—but that it will challenge, even change you.

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A Disturbing Narrative

There’s a story in the Bible, which grabs at my heartstrings whenever I read it.  I’m troubled by the tragedy that unfolds, by the unnecessary waste of a young life, by the foolishness of a man’s vow, by the fact that our sovereign God did not intervene to save this young woman.

I’m referring to the story of Jephthah’s daughter.  Have you read it? If not, or should you need to refresh your memory, it can be found at Judges 11:29-40.  In order for you to fully appreciate the message of this post, you will need to be familiar with this disturbing tale.

A Devoted Daughter

Now I’ve often heard about the special bond between a father and his daughter. It is not something to which I can relate, since I didn’t have that kind of relationship with my biological father. However, having walked with God for some years now, I believe I’m beginning to enjoy a similar bond with my Heavenly Father.

There is no doubt in my mind that Jephthah’s daughter loved her father very much. She was obviously watching and waiting for this mighty man of valour to return home from war.  As soon as she sees him, she runs out to meet him. She’s overjoyed at his safe return. She celebrates his triumph in customary fashion, with tambourines and dancing.  Alas, her love and devotion for Jephthah becomes her undoing. Her love for her father costs her life.

Now let’s apply this scenario to ourselves on a spiritual level. Do we love our Father God to the extent that it costs us our lives? I’m not referring to a literal death here. I’m referring to the demise of our old way of thinking and living, which runs counter to God’s commands, his word and his will. I’m referring to our constant challenge as believers. Do we identify with Jesus and learn obedience by the things that we suffer, or do we choose to follow our own path, do our own thing? Do we pick up our cross as dutiful disciples, or do we deliberately dodge the path of personal pain and sacrifice? Can we identify with Paul’s following statement?

I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me. (Galatians 2:20)

Do we love God with ALL of our heart, soul and strength as He requires? Have we crucified our flesh with its affections, appetites and desires, as His word demands? (Deuteronomy 6:5; Galatians 5:24).

Whilst I reflected on the various elements of this story, I wondered: where was Jephthah’s wife? I imagined her busy at home, tidying up, or preparing a special home-coming meal. And then I remembered Martha. Martha, who hadn’t chosen the ‘better part’. Martha, who became preoccupied with serving food instead of sitting at Jesus’ feet. Are we like this? Too busy with our personal business, or too busy ‘serving the Lord’ to sit at his feet, to make him a priority in our lives?

If this is the case, may I remind you of Jesus’s words in Matthew 10:38-39? (See Amplified Bible). May I remind you that to be his disciples, we are required to lose our lower life (the life focused only on earthly quests and concerns) and pursue the higher (God-quality and spiritually focused) life?

God’s Measure of True Love

Now, with regards to our relationship with the Lord, we learn from Revelation 3:16, that He prefers we are cold, rather than lukewarm. Fellow Christian bloggers and readers, let us not be deceived into thinking we are ok because we go to church, participate in Christian activities and believe in God. Don’t forget, the devils also believe! So let me ask you—are you guilty of loving God with your lips, whilst your lifestyle declares otherwise?

Jesus revealed in no uncertain terms that there will be those who are convinced they are in the right place with God, working his works etc., but the Lord will turn to them and say: I never knew you; depart from me. And let’s not forget the five foolish virgins who found themselves shut out from the marriage feast, to whom the same damning words were spoken: I do not know you!

Are we paying heed to these stark warnings? Do we take them seriously?

The ‘S’ Factor!

God requires an intimate knowledge of him. Relationship. Not words. Not unfulfilled intentions.

It can be easy in this age of grace to become careless. To be like the prodigal son, to avail ourselves of the rich resources of God’s Kingdom (his love, forgiveness, grace) and squander them selfishly, without care or consideration for the high price paid for us to enjoy our inheritance.

Wake up daughters of Zion! Wake up to the fact that the only life worth living is in our Father’s house, under his protection, submitted to his rules and regulations.

Wake up to the fact that we have an enemy, who hates us, and seeks to deceive and destroy us 24/7. Those suggestions that we can take God’s resources and use them for our own ends, where do you think they emanate from? Satan of course! Embraced and endorsed by our selfish inclinations, by our own carnal appetites and agendas.  We don’t even have to commit terrible sins.  Just not be fruitful.  Just not be concerned about the issues on God’s heart. Just be too busy with our personal dreams and desires to care about the needs of our neighbour, to participate meaningfully in the work of God’s kingdom, to fall on our knees and pray.

Daughters of Zion, I speak to myself and I speak to you all – wake up!

Love’s Mature Outlook

Moving on, I’d like to focus on another admirable quality of Jephthah’s loving daughter.  She is not bitter with her father, or about her fate.  How about you?  Have your experiences of life caused you to become angry with God, resentful about your experiences and negative about your future?

Dear reader, I suffered many years of spiritual malaise because of wrong attitudes. I carried around in my heart an ever increasing record of offenses and was both inwardly and outwardly hostile towards those who hurt me. Yes, life can be unfair. However, spiritual maturity, faith and trust in our Father God, enables us to overcome and carry on with the right attitude.

Cultivate A Friendship Circle

Jephthah’s daughter called upon her friends and shared her sorrow. They mourned with her.  Do you have good, genuine, spiritual friends whom you can call and depend upon when needed? Who will pray for, and support you if, or when things fall apart?

Now don’t be discouraged if you don’t have such supportive friendships. There’s always the help and counsel of the three Godhead members to fall back on. In fact you should be pursuing close fellowship with them anyway. I believe your relationship with each (Father God, Jesus, Holy Spirit), is vital to your spiritual health and strength. Your relationship with them should not be superficial.  But deep. Strong. Like Paul’s—so that you are convinced in your heart that NOTHING can separate you from God’s love.

The Heroine’s Finale

As mentioned at the beginning, the story of Jephthah’s daughter always tugs at my heart.  I usually take issue with God about it. Why did he allow her to die?  It seems so harsh and unfair. I’ve never really gotten an answer. However, I do acknowledge that God’s ways are higher than my thoughts and ways.  We are not qualified to judge.  Yet isn’t this how we can feel about the things we face in our own lives sometimes—about that false accusation, that persecution, that sudden catastrophe? Unfair!

Jephthah’s daughter may have lost her life but she made history. God saw to it that she was inscribed within the pages of the Book of books. There are those seeking to make history, to make a name for themselves, to make it according to worldly standards but in doing so, lose their own lives—whether literally, mentally, or spiritually.

Dear readers, let’s make sure we aren’t so foolish as to gain the whole world, yet lose our own soul.

Let’s remember we are not our own, we’ve been bought with a price. Let’s ensure that when all is done and dusted, our names appear in the Lamb’s Book of Life.

© Carol Hind – March 2017

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CHILL! And Take A Step Back

You want to do this, you want to do that. You wish you could have this, you wish you could have that. You plan to have this, you plan to have that. However, have you ever considered what God has wanted, wished and planned for you?

I know I KNOW, it’s easy to get caught up in our own minds and start creating dreams and goals that we want to achieve that we sometimes end up forgetting to talk to God about them. Although, come on, let’s be real for a minute, at times it’s truly hard to consult God because we are afraid of the answer. We want to achieve our set goals so badly that deep inside we don’t want to hear God denying them. Oh how quickly we are to forget that God has better plans for us not of evil but to give us a future and a hope. “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11).

We all know how much we can get caught up in the thought that we know what’s best for us. Although, it is God who knows us better than we know ourselves. “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord. 9 “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your ways, And My thoughts than your thoughts” (Isaiah 55:8-9). Let’s understand this right here in a more simple sense. Our thoughts small, God’s thoughts BIG! you see the difference. What we think is good for us is actually a tiny bit good, what God thinks is good for us is BEYOND good, even exceeds our own understanding.

Now, this brings us, yes, to the song I have decided to include in this post and finally mentioning its purpose now. I love this song “background” by Lecrae because it talks exactly about what I have mentioned, it’s an inspiration for this post. We need to play the background in order to do Gods work in us, not to do our own will but Gods will. If we do it on our own we will think we have achieved all we can, when actually we have achieved nothing. So, let’s take a step back…chill down a little and let God be the superstar. Stay blessed!

The joy from God will give you a happy peace 🙂 a lovable peace ❤

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Step By Step

By Chidi Udemezue

When Anashe first approached me to be apart of her women empowerment community, my first thought was “Wow God you are awesome!” and then “What the heck am I going to say?!”

I had so many ideas and experiences and pieces of advice swimming around my head, but one evening I came to sit before God in prayer regarding my own personal situations.
The reply I believe I got back from Him is something that He has most definitely told me before, something that I have most definitely blogged about before (I clearly don’t listen!) and most definitely something that I feel pressed to share with whoever is reading this today.

STEP BY STEP!
With each step that you take in life, whether that be taking the step from high school/sixth form/college into university. Or from university into full time work. Or stepping out into your own business. Or moving out into your own home. Or leaving a toxic relationship. Whatever step it is that you are taking or embarking on – Trust God. Trust the process. Trust the season that you are currently in.
God is the creator of this whole earth: The universe, the stars, the sun, the moon, you, and me He is so intentional.
Do you not think that He has a mighty plan for your life? He will work it out. At each step there is a new lesson for you to learn – it’s a journey, the steps are needed to enable you to be at your full capacity – whole, new, set apart and complete – when you reach the destination. And when you get to the destination you’ll be so grateful for each step and lesson learnt along the way.

And I know, sometimes the steps and the lessons are hard. They make you question everything, from your faith to whether the end goal is worth it or not, but He is God, if He ordained it, He will see you through it.
Just like in Daniel 3:19-30, the fire/situation/trial/tribulation may look like it is set up to completely finish you, but God is with you in the fire. He will lead you through it; He will be with you in it. People will be amazed to see that God is actually in the fire with you leading you out safely. And when you come out of the fire, your clothes will not be burnt, your skin will show no effects of the fire, there will be no smell of fire on you and all that will be left is the glory and the praise that is due to our God!
(And lets not forget the promotion and the fruition of God’s promises in our lives too!!)

Be encouraged! And stay blessed!
Chidi
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