When Did I Start…

Popping out of one’s bubble can be hard when focusing on ourselves is so easy. The more we focus on our needs and revolve everything around ourselves the tougher our bubbles become. Some can even become as tough as titanium (actually searched this up, much stronger than steel😬). When the bubble gets to this state we may feel like everything is okay and that we are functioning smoothly🤦🏾‍♀️. However, in reality, we are delaying God’s plan for us and limiting His ability to work through us.

Song of Solomon 8:8, NKJV

We have a little sister, and she hath no breasts:
what shall we do for our sister in the day when she shall be spoken for?”


I was listening to a sermon at church and this verse surprised me 😲. It not your typical verse that you would hear a preacher reference. I began to recall a post I did on this topic 2 years ago (Pop that bubble). And God began to reveal a couple of things.

Allow me to dive 🏊🏾‍♀️ into this scripture a little bit.
To have “no breasts” is to lack something
To have full breasts is to not lack that which we need.
For women in that time, full breasts were a sign of having the ability to properly nurture a child and give them the necessary nutrients.

In this scripture, the shulamite brothers were worried because their “little sister” with “no breasts” and would not be prepared for her being spoken for (back then it was in regards to finding a suitor). “What will we do” they were troubled because she would not be ready because of her lack of breasts. Likewise, God is worried when we bubble ourselves, trust only ourselves and when the times comes lack preparation for Him to speak through us.

The more consumed we are in ourselves and the more we try to do things ourselves, the smaller our “breasts” become. These small breasts symbolise the lack we have of the necessary things that God wants to instil in us to do what He has planned.

The more selfish we become the more we depend on our own power, our own will and become less dependent on God.

But is it not written: “…Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit,
saith the LORD of hosts.” (Zechariah 4:6, NKJV)

And I will reveal the truth about the dangers of selfish bubbles.
When we are in this state especially as Christians, based on experience, when things fail we are most likely to go to God accusatorily. “Why did you let this happen, Lord?” “why me?” “I feel so far from you” “why have you forsaken me Lord..?” am I hitting the right buttons here 🛎.

In these moments we are so focused on ourselves we forget what God has done and continues to do for us. We disregard the small wins in life and blame God for the loss of our bigger desires. We Forget that this very breath, every day we live is by His grace. He decides that we are worthy to live another day and I don’t know about you but that in itself is enough to never doubt God and to be so thankful. We are like the “little sister “with “no breasts” 👀 🙆🏾‍♀️ yea I know tragic truth 😪

A couple of weeks ago this was me 😱shocker I know. and as I was in prayer
God began to remind me “was it not I who…”, “Was it not I that…”. I came to the realisation that I was so focused on what I must accomplish if I could accomplish it that I completely forgot that I had a capable God.🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️
And all I could say in the end was “when did I start…”
When did I start forgetting what God had already done for me?
When did I start relying on myself?
When did I start forming my bubble?
When did I start not thanking God even for a new day?🥺

And with this, I repented and thanked God for this reminder.😭🙏🏾

On a final note, I would like to say, it’s not about me it’s not even about you, it’s about us giving our lives to Him, fully depending on God and allowing Him FULL access to work in us. And that can only happen when we break the selfish bubble around us and allow God in.

Some of you have nearly unbreakable bubbles, you may be a beginner Christian or have never known God before. But if you feel this way that you need to break out of this bubble and allow God in then I invite you to do this sinners prayer and receive Jesus into your heart. That is the first step to breaking that tough bubble.
Sinner’s prayer 🙏🏾

After this feel free to contact me and I am more than willing to help you through this new Journey of your with Christ.

Stay blessed the most stylish way possible being the you that God made you to be 😊

The Truth Shall Set You Free

“the truth is unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realise that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
– Dr Steve Maraboli

A Christian life is hard at times and that is the truth. Don’t be fooled by those who tell you it’s all rainbows, sunshine and lollipops. The fact of the matter is that a Christian life is supposed to be hard. Look at Jesus, he died, NAILED on the cross, that all may receive salvation and be free from the bondage of sin. It was not an easy task, even Jesus knew that as he prayed on Mount Olives (Luke 22:39-46) before he was crucified. Where were the rainbows and the sunshine then?

The world full of trials and temptations, we as Christians sometimes forget that we are not meant to be perfect. Every so often, we are bound to fall and become weak, this is only so that God’s power may be seen through us. “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9), this means at times we will end up on the wrong path. This is why God is a forgiving father, his mercy endures forever and will guide us on the right path again.

One of the feelings that stops us from embracing this concept is GUILT. The guilt produced when we have done something wrong or believe we have done something wrong in God’s sight. This guilt convinces us to bury it deep inside “act” like nothing has happened and move on. What we fail to realise is that something already is happening, the more we keep it in, the more it will consume us. We become distant from God, we fear to go before him in prayer, even for a simple thank you, for deep down we still feel that we are not worthy to go before him after what we have done.

Personally, I have been through this road, it’s a dark and lonely one. Our guilt will try and persuade us that everything is okay if we keep staying our distance from God, but that is not the case. As the quote indicates, if you don’t let go, if you don’t forgive yourself and the situation then how can you move forward with God. God said, “come now, let us reason together, though your sins are red as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow” (Isaiah 1:8). God knew that at times we will go astray, but he will always receive us with open arms when we return to him like the father of the prodigal son (Luke 15:11-32).

God forgave the Israelites time and time again, even when he was greatly angry with them for their sins, he still showed mercy and love to them. So, what more can he forgive and show mercy to you? His most beloved child.

We just need to come to an understanding that all we need to do is bring all our burdens to him “Cast your burden on the Lord, And He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved” (Psalm 55:22). Present the burden of guilt before God, ask for mercy and surely his mercy shall shine upon you. Surely you will feel free, knowing that the situation is over will give you the capacity to move forward with God. Stay blessed!

Smile in your darkest hours and in your brightest days because God always has your back 🙂