When Did I Start…

Popping out of one’s bubble can be hard when focusing on ourselves is so easy. The more we focus on our needs and revolve everything around ourselves the tougher our bubbles become. Some can even become as tough as titanium (actually searched this up, much stronger than steel😬). When the bubble gets to this state we may feel like everything is okay and that we are functioning smoothly🤦🏾‍♀️. However, in reality, we are delaying God’s plan for us and limiting His ability to work through us.

Song of Solomon 8:8, NKJV

We have a little sister, and she hath no breasts:
what shall we do for our sister in the day when she shall be spoken for?”


I was listening to a sermon at church and this verse surprised me 😲. It not your typical verse that you would hear a preacher reference. I began to recall a post I did on this topic 2 years ago (Pop that bubble). And God began to reveal a couple of things.

Allow me to dive 🏊🏾‍♀️ into this scripture a little bit.
To have “no breasts” is to lack something
To have full breasts is to not lack that which we need.
For women in that time, full breasts were a sign of having the ability to properly nurture a child and give them the necessary nutrients.

In this scripture, the shulamite brothers were worried because their “little sister” with “no breasts” and would not be prepared for her being spoken for (back then it was in regards to finding a suitor). “What will we do” they were troubled because she would not be ready because of her lack of breasts. Likewise, God is worried when we bubble ourselves, trust only ourselves and when the times comes lack preparation for Him to speak through us.

The more consumed we are in ourselves and the more we try to do things ourselves, the smaller our “breasts” become. These small breasts symbolise the lack we have of the necessary things that God wants to instil in us to do what He has planned.

The more selfish we become the more we depend on our own power, our own will and become less dependent on God.

But is it not written: “…Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit,
saith the LORD of hosts.” (Zechariah 4:6, NKJV)

And I will reveal the truth about the dangers of selfish bubbles.
When we are in this state especially as Christians, based on experience, when things fail we are most likely to go to God accusatorily. “Why did you let this happen, Lord?” “why me?” “I feel so far from you” “why have you forsaken me Lord..?” am I hitting the right buttons here 🛎.

In these moments we are so focused on ourselves we forget what God has done and continues to do for us. We disregard the small wins in life and blame God for the loss of our bigger desires. We Forget that this very breath, every day we live is by His grace. He decides that we are worthy to live another day and I don’t know about you but that in itself is enough to never doubt God and to be so thankful. We are like the “little sister “with “no breasts” 👀 🙆🏾‍♀️ yea I know tragic truth 😪

A couple of weeks ago this was me 😱shocker I know. and as I was in prayer
God began to remind me “was it not I who…”, “Was it not I that…”. I came to the realisation that I was so focused on what I must accomplish if I could accomplish it that I completely forgot that I had a capable God.🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️
And all I could say in the end was “when did I start…”
When did I start forgetting what God had already done for me?
When did I start relying on myself?
When did I start forming my bubble?
When did I start not thanking God even for a new day?🥺

And with this, I repented and thanked God for this reminder.😭🙏🏾

On a final note, I would like to say, it’s not about me it’s not even about you, it’s about us giving our lives to Him, fully depending on God and allowing Him FULL access to work in us. And that can only happen when we break the selfish bubble around us and allow God in.

Some of you have nearly unbreakable bubbles, you may be a beginner Christian or have never known God before. But if you feel this way that you need to break out of this bubble and allow God in then I invite you to do this sinners prayer and receive Jesus into your heart. That is the first step to breaking that tough bubble.
Sinner’s prayer 🙏🏾

After this feel free to contact me and I am more than willing to help you through this new Journey of your with Christ.

Stay blessed the most stylish way possible being the you that God made you to be 😊

The Size Doesn’t Matter, The Heart Does

Hey ladies, how have you been? How is the week going so far? If hectic, don’t worry because same! But the God we love and serve is our strength “I will love You, O Lord, my strength.”(Psalms 18:1) So keep having strength sisters.

Today’s topic: The size of a Church compared to the hearts of the Church

Okay, What I have discovered is that no matter the size of the Church, God looks for one thing and is present for that one thing that is a right heart. That is why God doesn’t worry about size “For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.” (Matthew 18:20). Those who are gathered for Him shall feel his presence. So, what is this right heart? The right heart is a heart that has gathered to worship the Lord in SPIRIT and in TRUTH “God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.” (John 4:24)

Nowadays, we have to be careful about big flashy congregations, though they may attract us, the presence of God might not be there. Fame, power, whatever their intentions may be might hinder the presence of the Lord from entering because their hearts and spirits are not in the right place. The service then turns into a concert, just an entertainment to please people NOT GOD.

Don’t get me wrong ladies, I’m not rebuking all big churches because some do have the right heart. I’m just saying open your minds and eyes, don’t be blinded to the intentions of Churches. Look around, be alert, ask yourself are they here for God or man? look at your own intentions, why are you at that church? Are you there for God, for people or for the entertainment?

This is an area many Christians fail in and end up being lead astray. A really good way to help you be sure is to KNOW THE WORD. When you know the word of God you can never be lead astray. Whether you like it or not there are false prophets and not everyone who preaches to you will be giving you the truth “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves.”(Matthew 7:15). This is why you should know the word for yourself so that you can judge and gain the real truth.

Next time you go to church don’t be amazed by the quantity of it or the talent, however, be amazed by the presence of God in a church. For God does not look at the size, He looks for those true worshippers who will worship Him in spirit and in truth. Stay blessed!

It’s not about the size, it’s about the heart.