Do You Love Yourself?

Look in the mirror, do you like what you see? What do you see? A strong woman, with a beautiful face staring back at you? Or do you see a disappointment, an ugly imagery of who you wish you weren’t? Are you content with what you see?

When we look in the mirror we have a tendency to automatically self- evaluate. You can always try and convince yourself that you are comfortable with your body and who you are. But, if every time you look in the mirror a hint of disappointment and hatred comes, then you need to re-evaluate how you feel about yourself. If looking in the mirror and smiling is so difficult and you can’t even hype yourself up in the morning, then you need to re-evaluate how you feel about yourself. If you can’t even look in the mirror no more then you really need to re-evaluate.

Ladies, we all know how hard it is to love ourselves and our bodies in this day and age. Social media showing what the ideal woman should look like, all these “glamorous” Instagram girls. It’s truly hard to look at yourself and love what you see. So how do we fix this, how do we learn to love ourselves?. Well, it’s all about clearing our minds of the seeking VALIDATION toxin. We are so caught up in “fixing” the way we look to either please the male gender or what social media says we should be. However, what about what God says we should be, the more we seek to please social media the more we end up displeasing God. We end up being ashamed of God’s creation (us). We forget that He is a God who doesn’t make any mistakes, He made us in His image. “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”(Genesis 1:27). The more we hate ourselves and how we look the more we are really hating God. Disapproving of what He has wonderfully made “I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made..”(Psalm 139:14).

It’s important to have self-acceptance and I KNOW I KNOW, easier said than done. Trust me, I’m a working progress myself. But just think of it this way, 1 step at a time.

1st step: Knowing that you don’t need validation from anyone but yourself and God.
2nd step: Knowing where you stand with yourself and how you feel about yourself. Finding those elements that make you disapprove yourself.
3rd step: Accepting that you have these feelings about yourself and you need to address them.
– once you have accepted, it is important to pray about it and ask God for forgiveness and strength to regain/obtain self-love.
4th step: Attacking the problem. Depending on what it is, for some this may take time.
– What I like to do is look in the mirror and compliment myself. This helps you to know that you don’t need to wait for people to compliment you. You already know you’re beautiful (not saying that you shouldn’t accept compliments, they are good also but you shouldn’t solely depend on them).
– Another thing I did was no make up for a month. We sometimes can get caught up with wearing makeup to make ourselves feel and look good. We end up accepting the person with the mask instead of the person under the mask. So it’s really good to spend some time off makeup and take pictures of your natural beauty. This really helped me and I started to love myself more and more and my smile from the beginning of the month to the end became more natural not forced. So try this if you think it will be helpful.
5th final step: Keep repeating every day and you will find yourself slowly changing the thoughts about yourself. You start to be more confident in your skin and just glowing with self-acceptance.

I know that sometimes along the way you may slip but the most important thing is to stop, take a breath and realise that you have fallen back. Then get back up again and continue on. The devil may try and persuade you to stay down but don’t give in, get BACK UP again. Stay blessed!

The only Validation you need is from yourself. 🙂

Look At Yourself, You’re Good

URRGHHHH! Who else is already done with this week? And it’s only TUESDAY! The last few weeks have been crazy, with lectures, handing in assessments, doing tests and managing a blog, it’s hectic. So, to all you other bloggers looking at this right now nodding your heads, I know I feel you.

Okay, last week was kind of a crazy one, filled with less good and more stressful, bad moments. It is times like these when you need God the most. You look left, you look right and all you see are people fighting their own battles that you know they won’t have time to aid in yours. It’s in these moments you can only truly depend on God to get you through and allow Him to be your comforter. “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” (2 Corinthians 1:3-4).

There will honestly be times where you feel down, feel like giving up on the life that keeps pushing you down. Take it from someone who knows, these days are so draining, you feel so unaccomplished. You look at your failures, your messes in life and you just bring yourself back down into that hole full of low self-esteem, sadness and doubt. But as the song above “I’m good” by Tim Bownman Jr. says, sometimes you have to look at yourself and shake yourself out of that phase. Think about all the goodness that God has done to your life and let all that “grief” go. Tell yourself YOU”RE GOOD, with God you are always good, good things will always come to you. He doesn’t hold anything good from you “For the Lord God is a sun and shield; The Lord will give grace and glory; No good thing will He withhold from those who walk uprightly.”(Psalm 84:11) Just a short encouragement. Stay blessed!

P.s Just wanted to take this time to also thank you all for your support and love these past few months 🙂 . May God bless you all and much love from me ❤
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“The day you accept yourself is the same day you’ll start to accept God. You’re made in his image” – Stylishly Inspired 🙂

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Your Past Doesn’t Define Your Future

So you’re glued in the past like a recurring nightmare. Every single day, every single hour, every single minute. Feeling wrapped up by your past, starting to wonder what people would think if they knew. Has it become a part of who you are? Well has it?

See the more we think about it, the more we allow the past to consume who we can become. The past is that person at the other end of the rope, tugging us towards them. It knows it can’t survive unless we are willing to let it. we need to learn to let go of the shame we have of the past and start fresh with the future.

“I smile because I know my past doesn’t define my future, God does and he is on my side.” – Stylishly Inspired

A little encouragement that God is the one who shapes our future we just have to let him. He is a God who doesn’t use force but lets us willingly give our lives to Him to mould and shape it to what He has planned. When we learn to trust and work with God we bear much greater fruit, ““I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5). We begin to grow better, influence people better and live better. All sadness is replaced with joy, all hardship is replaced with peace and all doubt is replaced with faith. As He can turn our bronze to gold and our iron into silver (Isaiah 60:17), so can He turn our lives from the dead to life. He’s just waiting for us to abide in Him and receive SALVATION. (This is something I will touch on in detail in a later post).

Let’s give our lives to Him for without God we surely cannot do anything. We cannot progress, we can’t move on from our past, we cannot find peace and joy.

So trust in the lord for His plans for you are not of evil but of peace to give you a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). Stay blessed!

When you give it all to him, the rest of your life will be smoother 🙂

Are You STUDYING or MEMORISING?

Now that you know the purpose of the bible it’s important to know how to read and study the bible. Many people believe the bible is like reading a novel, but a matter of fact this just lowers the value of the content in the bible. It’s more than just memorising verses and knowing what happens in it. To really benefit from reading the word of God you need to know what to do before the reading, during the reading and afterwards.

Before
There are a few things you need a BIBLE, pen and paper/notepad and most importantly prayer. It’s essential to pray before you read the bible to allow God to open up your eyes and reveal to you His word. There are 3 critical points to pray about:

1. The Holy spirit – The Holy spirit is the helper who is sent to teach you “But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you.”(John 14:26). The holy spirit has the ability to guide you and teach you of God’s word, revealing to you the deeper things of God. “But God has revealed them to us through His Spirit. For the Spirit searches all things, yes, the deep things of God.”(1 Corinthians 2:10)

2. Revelation- you need to pray for a personal revelation of what you are about to read because the way we understand the verse is always different to another person. With a personal revelation, it makes it easier for you to keep that word in your heart and act according to it.

3. Ability to apply the verse in your everyday life – This is important to do every time you sit down to study the word of God. This is the key because at times we just read and understand but never act on the word. But God wants us to act on it. To BE like the people He wants us to be, not to just KNOW what type of people He wants us to be. So, always pray that what you learn you may also apply it in your everyday life.

During
DOT IT DOWN: When you find a link between the verse/chapter you are reading to another verse or chapter in the bible, dot it down. If you have a new understanding of that chapter/verse then you need to dot that down too. I suggest also writing the date, that way when you read that chapter/verse again and you get a clearer understanding then you can dot down your processes. This is something that really helped me and I found myself remembering more of the bible than I did when I wasn’t writing down ideas and thoughts everytime I read the bible.

After
Thank God for the reading and pray for more understanding as you meditate on it during the day/week. Make sure after a long reading to go over your notes so you remember better the key points you learnt and might want to pray about during that week.

I hope this has really spoken to someone and touched them and helped them on how to go about reading, studying and understanding the bible. Stay blessed!

“In the beginning was the word, the word was with God and the word was God.” (John 1:1)

Knowing Yourself, Knowing Your God

The bible is known to be the word of God, yes? But you’ll be surprised how many people don’t know the PURPOSE of the bible. The bible is not only for us to know the word of god, it is more than that, it’s not just about showing us the way we should live, it’s more than that. The bible reveals to us about ourselves and makes us know God and the way he works. It’s the foundation of our connection and communication with God. That’s why it’s essential to know the bible

As mentioned above there are 2 key things you understand from the bible are:
1. YOU and who you are
2. GOD, who He is and who He is to YOU

Let’s focus on the YOU first.
When we receive christ as our personal saviour we are no longer the person that we were before christ, we are made new. We are no longer of the world but have become part of the children of God. “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” (2 Corinthians 5:17). With this, we need to be able to understand how the new us works and functions. Just like when you get a new technology device you read the manual to understand all the functions. That is what the bible is to Christians, it is a manual for ourselves. You get!

Okay, 2nd part, God and who He is to You.
“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.” (John 1:1). It is critical to understand this because when we know God we begin to understand the purpose he has for our lives, and we can get to know God by reading his word (the bible). God is like the tools used to make us, He is the one who assembles us, makes us to perfection and fixes up all the loose knobs in us. However, how can we allow God to fix and build us if we don’t trust and understand how he functions? Like a mechanic, if He doesn’t understand His tools how will He know which one to use to be able to fix a problem. Just like us if we don’t understand God and who He is to us then how can we know how to pray to him to ALLOW Him to work on us.

Understanding this will enable us to study the word of God more efficiently and benefit from what God says more. Stay blessed!

If you don’t know yourself then how can you know God