CHILL! And Take A Step Back

You want to do this, you want to do that. You wish you could have this, you wish you could have that. You plan to have this, you plan to have that. However, have you ever considered what God has wanted, wished and planned for you?

I know I KNOW, it’s easy to get caught up in our own minds and start creating dreams and goals that we want to achieve that we sometimes end up forgetting to talk to God about them. Although, come on, let’s be real for a minute, at times it’s truly hard to consult God because we are afraid of the answer. We want to achieve our set goals so badly that deep inside we don’t want to hear God denying them. Oh how quickly we are to forget that God has better plans for us not of evil but to give us a future and a hope. “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11).

We all know how much we can get caught up in the thought that we know what’s best for us. Although, it is God who knows us better than we know ourselves. “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord. 9 “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your ways, And My thoughts than your thoughts” (Isaiah 55:8-9). Let’s understand this right here in a more simple sense. Our thoughts small, God’s thoughts BIG! you see the difference. What we think is good for us is actually a tiny bit good, what God thinks is good for us is BEYOND good, even exceeds our own understanding.

Now, this brings us, yes, to the song I have decided to include in this post and finally mentioning its purpose now. I love this song “background” by Lecrae because it talks exactly about what I have mentioned, it’s an inspiration for this post. We need to play the background in order to do Gods work in us, not to do our own will but Gods will. If we do it on our own we will think we have achieved all we can, when actually we have achieved nothing. So, let’s take a step back…chill down a little and let God be the superstar. Stay blessed!

The joy from God will give you a happy peace 🙂 a lovable peace ❤

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We Are Not Crazy

Something I have started to notice and has began to bother’s me is the way social media these days displays how women should act in a relationship. Viewing us as eye candy for men and high maintenance, instead of the partners that we should be. Teaching young ladies that we are supposed to be crazy, jealous and very demanding in a relationship. Moreover, telling us that “THIS IS THE NORM”. Well, have I got news for you! It ISN’T! This type of fake reality is disrespectful to women and here we are sitting and allowing this unwanted label to process.

The lord created us, women so that men wouldn’t be lonely, we are helpers, not stress-causers. Have we forgetten that God has already purposed how women should act even in a relationship. We are not meant to be quarrelsome “Better to dwell in the wilderness, Than with a contentious and angry woman.”
(Proverbs 21:19). This is why the rates of breakups and divorces have increased, it is not in our nature as women to fight and be angry all the time. It is also up to us women and mothers to teach the younger generation of women. We shouldn’t leave them to believe what social media says because that is the platform for the devil to decrease the value and potential of a woman. Even the bible tell us, women, what to teach the younger generation of women “the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behaviour, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”(Titus 2:3-5)

Ladies, we are not crazy and we don’t need to accept this label from anyone. What started out as a playful joke on social media has become the true reality in how relationships are managed in our society today. Yes, I’m also talking from experience, seeing all those social media jokes about crazy, jealous girls and the words “How girlfriends be like” (is this ringing a bell to anyone else), Afterwards I would ask myself am I a crazy person? Am i the jealous type of girl? then i would start to imagine how I would be in a relationship in the way social media perceived women as a guideline. This was an obvious mistake because it led to a lot of stress and worry of how I wasn’t like the “typical girl/girlfriend”. I wasn’t skinny, I didn’t like showing too much skin, I didn’t like a lot of attention and I was definitely not the jealous type. See this is were it all begins, social media had got us thinking that there is something wrong with us that we need to be like all the other girls.

But, I want to thank God because He showed me that being different in this corrupted society is exactly what I need to be. WE are not crazy, WE don’t have to show skin to feel accepted, and We don’t need to listen to the voice of social media. We are strong women, We don’t need attention from men, We don’t need acceptance from this world. We just need acceptance from God and He wants us to be different and look to Him. Not to get caught up with how the world wants us to run but by how He wants us to run. At the end of the day He is the one who has already destined our lives and who we are going to be with forever, so just wait upon Him. Stay Blessed!

WE are strong, NOT weak, WE are sane, NOT crazy

God Pleaser not People Pleaser

Nowadays I see Churches and Christians becoming more of people pleasers than God pleasers. Church services have now without a doubt formed into concerts and entertainment centres rather than a place of exalting God. It’s a shame to see people lose focus on God because He deserves that moment of adoration and praise for all the goodness He has done in our lives.

We need to focus on our relationship with God, begin to grow stronger in Him and restore that true love for God that is weakening. There was a time where I, myself, was no longer doing the things of God (Such as worship and prayer) because I wanted to do it for God. I started to do them because I felt that was what I was expected to do, I was doing it out of my desire to please others, it was no longer about doing it for the love I had for God. If you read my post “The war is not over yet” I mentioned how there was a time where people would give me many ideas and thoughts wanting to rule my life. However, that is wrong! Nobody can govern your life except God, He is the one you should be trying to please.

The fact is people will always have opinions and a certain way they want you to behave and think. Let me tell you today, forget that, forget them, JUST KEEP DOING YOU! We were not brought on this earth to please mankind, we were put here by God to fulfil what He has purposed for our lives, not what others have purposed for it. It’s by His grace that He gives us a new day every day and allows us to live. If that’s not enough to want to please God then I don’t know what is, because last time I checked people are not the ones who formed us, planned our lives and created a destiny for us before we were even born “Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me, When as yet there were none of them.” (Psalm 139:6)

We need to start becoming God pleasers again, doing what God finds pleasing. Which is having faith and putting our trust in Him, obeying His commands in our lives and relying on Him always, “But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for He who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.” (Hebrews 11:6). Only then will we see His love flow in every aspect of our lives. Let’s stop pleasing people and start pleasing God! Stay blessed!

He wants to do so much in your life, His just waiting on you to give Him your life.

Prayed? Now What

Ever had that feeling that God is not answering your prayers? Then you start to wonder has God really forsaken you? It’s funny how quickly we as humans find blame in something other than ourselves. We are quick to point fingers at others, though find it difficult to point at ourselves and realise when we are at fault.

There was a time in my life where I would pray and pray and pray, yet see no results. I started to become convinced that God was not hearing me at all, I felt alone and abandoned by God. Wondering all the time what I had done to anger God, was it fixable and could I make him love me again? It was hard to tell people this problem because no matter how much I love my family and friends I didn’t want them to see me in this position. I was afraid of what they would think, what they would say about me to themselves and I was afraid of them thinking less of me. I was stuck in my own bubble of confusion, fear, sadness and hurt.

Then one day I got a revelation as I was reading the bible, the problem wasn’t my thoughts of God abandoning me, it was within me. It was about where my heart was at after prayer. When we pray at times we have these little doubts afterwards, has God really heard me? Is he going to make it really happen? I knew then that my heart was not in the right place. All these thoughts would come and I would allow them to develop and grow with each prayer. God wants to do so much in our lives and he can only do them if we allow him to. Our lack of faith after prayer limits God’s power and blessings towards us. I was limiting God from answering my prayers, I was allowing doubt to cloud my faith and to silence it.

Faith is a critical component to enable God to work upon us, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen” (Hebrews 11:1). The important part of prayer happens after the prayer, so it is very important for us to have faith after prayer. If our hearts are not set right we may block what God had planned to give to us. It’s not that God hasn’t heard us, it’s that we have built a wall and limited his access to our lives. We need to learn to break that wall and have faith and trust God wholeheartedly “Blessed are those who put their trust in Him”(Psalm 2:12). God is ready to give us all he has promised us, however it is up to us to let him in and do so. Stay Blessed!

“For [his] love [for you] is as strong as death” (Song of Solomon 8:6)