Something I have started to notice and has began to bother’s me is the way social media these days displays how women should act in a relationship. Viewing us as eye candy for men and high maintenance, instead of the partners that we should be. Teaching young ladies that we are supposed to be crazy, jealous and very demanding in a relationship. Moreover, telling us that “THIS IS THE NORM”. Well, have I got news for you! It ISN’T! This type of fake reality is disrespectful to women and here we are sitting and allowing this unwanted label to process.
The lord created us, women so that men wouldn’t be lonely, we are helpers, not stress-causers. Have we forgetten that God has already purposed how women should act even in a relationship. We are not meant to be quarrelsome “Better to dwell in the wilderness, Than with a contentious and angry woman.”
(Proverbs 21:19). This is why the rates of breakups and divorces have increased, it is not in our nature as women to fight and be angry all the time. It is also up to us women and mothers to teach the younger generation of women. We shouldn’t leave them to believe what social media says because that is the platform for the devil to decrease the value and potential of a woman. Even the bible tell us, women, what to teach the younger generation of women “the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behaviour, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”(Titus 2:3-5)
Ladies, we are not crazy and we don’t need to accept this label from anyone. What started out as a playful joke on social media has become the true reality in how relationships are managed in our society today. Yes, I’m also talking from experience, seeing all those social media jokes about crazy, jealous girls and the words “How girlfriends be like” (is this ringing a bell to anyone else), Afterwards I would ask myself am I a crazy person? Am i the jealous type of girl? then i would start to imagine how I would be in a relationship in the way social media perceived women as a guideline. This was an obvious mistake because it led to a lot of stress and worry of how I wasn’t like the “typical girl/girlfriend”. I wasn’t skinny, I didn’t like showing too much skin, I didn’t like a lot of attention and I was definitely not the jealous type. See this is were it all begins, social media had got us thinking that there is something wrong with us that we need to be like all the other girls.
But, I want to thank God because He showed me that being different in this corrupted society is exactly what I need to be. WE are not crazy, WE don’t have to show skin to feel accepted, and We don’t need to listen to the voice of social media. We are strong women, We don’t need attention from men, We don’t need acceptance from this world. We just need acceptance from God and He wants us to be different and look to Him. Not to get caught up with how the world wants us to run but by how He wants us to run. At the end of the day He is the one who has already destined our lives and who we are going to be with forever, so just wait upon Him. Stay Blessed!
WE are strong, NOT weak, WE are sane, NOT crazy